There are a TON of reasons why you may be struggling with standing up for yourself, though the top ones I hear are:
You don’t want to hurt others
You don’t want people to hate you
Watch this video to learn more about how to stand up for yourself FAST while maintaining your self respect when you're a teenager
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What if I told you there’s an easy 4-step strategy that can help you stand up for yourself with others WHILE still feeling good about yourself?
Dialectical Behavior Therapy maps this out in their Interpersonal Effectiveness module which is all about improving your relationships through healthier communication strategies.
For this skillset, you’ll use the acronym FAST to help you remember these strategies:
Fair
be fair to yourself and the other person. Consider their point of view, while still sharing yours.
Apologies
don’t over- or under-apologize.
Stick to your values
your values will never steer you wrong if you stay true and aligned to them. Not sure if you’re making the right decision? Try playing the intuition game to see if you’re choice is aligned here: mallorygrimste.com/counseling-blog/intuitiongame
Tell the truth
don’t lie, exaggerate or make things up.
For even more differences, I highly encourage you to watch the entire series on Dealing With Toxic Friendships here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLiLAumV7icFE0IPtBhm3xdHTGfn0_13mN
If you’re ready to start seeing a therapist, make sure you reach out to someone local to you. If you happen to live in the Woodbridge, CT area, we’d love to connect with you here:
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